In Ukraine, there is a firm belief that a divorced woman is probably unhappy. The words that society uses to describe them are far from being pleasant: lonely, embittered, unable to save the family. It’s often believed that if the marriage broke up, it’s a woman’s fault. That’s why Ukrainian men approach divorced ladies rather cautiously, not to mention foreigners. Many of them will never devote their life to a woman who has been married before.
But there’s nothing wrong with marrying a Ukrainian lady that already faced serious relationships. The most important advantage of divorced Ukrainian women is their invaluable experience. They are no longer naive 20-year-old girls who can only complain about their husbands. They know what it means to work on relationships, and they know what can make them strong and what can simply destroy them. They know how to love their soul mates right.
Divorced ladies still have advantages that give them an edge over girls who have never been married, and here are few of them.
Pros of divorced Ukrainian women
They are more experienced
A Ukrainian lady, who faced serious relationships before, sees losers better and tries to avoid them. She is able to recognize the signs of a good and bad husband. Divorce became an excellent teacher for her. She’s unlikely to repeat her previous mistakes and will act more adequately in matters of conflict and compromises.
A divorced woman can estimate how much a man is interested in her. She won’t try to save relationships that fall apart; she can give a man only one chance and won’t waste time, neither her own nor yours. The experience made her value the efforts she puts in relationships.
They are not desperate
Yes, divorced Ukrainian ladies understand that they may experience disappointment one day, and no, you’re not the only man in the universe. They clearly understand that it’s better to be alone than to suffer from unsuccessful relationships once again.
Their chances to find new love are greater because they were already chosen by another man. Other guys feel this subconsciously. And if a girl’s husband was a successful person, it raises her chances even more.
They are realistic
Single Ukrainian girls, who have already been married, have more realistic requirements regarding men, and more realistic expectations concerning family life. Men appreciate it because they don’t feel pressure, so it becomes easier to cope with the fact that they’ll never be perfect husbands. Guys understand that a divorced woman had seen her ex-husband on a couch in old boxers, an old T-shirt, and know how a man in a bad mood looks. And this means that she is morally ready to see this again.
As practice shows, a divorced woman gets married faster than a lady of the same age who was never married.
Cons of divorced Ukrainian women
But don’t forget that single Ukrainian women, who have already been married, also have a couple of disadvantages. And here they are.
She may have a kid
If a Ukrainian woman gets back to dating after divorce, she probably has at least one child. You should be prepared for the fact that you’re gonna have to find a common language with your Slavic bride’s kid, and maybe even with its father because he will remain a part of its life. You have to think about whether you’re ready for this or not. Maybe you shouldn’t traumatize a child's psyche if you don’t seek long-term relationships with its mother.
She may not know how to date after a divorce
When you get older, finding a partner may become harder. For example, dating after 40 is different from dating in your 20’s and 30’s. For a Ukrainian woman over forty, a divorce may be devastating, as she is not ready for building a family once again. That’s why she may not know how to date after divorce at 40, which makes her harder to approach.
She also has flaws
Although a Ukrainian lady is a devoted wife, who does her best to keep relationships going, divorce is always the fault of both spouses. In some ways, she could make a mistake or two and never admit that she wasn’t right, or maybe she just didn’t want to save her marriage.
And most importantly, if you learned that a Ukrainian woman you like is divorced, keep in mind that she’s already fed up with all this wedding bustle, and if she wants a family, she is really morally ready for it.